Funerals are a chance to join with others and celebrate a life. I can guide you through this challenging time and help you reflect, and find the words and actions to begin a period of grieving.
As a former critical care nurse, I’ve worked with families at times of great stress and this has given me a strong sense of empathy, and I know the pain of losing precious loved ones.
I started my funeral work while studying celebrancy at university, and at that time I volunteered to conducted funerals for those who, sadly, had nothing.
Since then I’ve had the honour of conducting funerals or memorial ceremonies for young people through to the elderly; for people I’ve known well to others I’m actually glad I didn’t know (because they caused so much pain for their families); for those who died as a result of accidents to those who chose to end their lives; those who seemed to know few people to those who touched thousands of lives; those whose families were devastated to lose them, to those whose families were either glad to see them go or who barely knew them.
And that’s where the skill of a celebrant is important. A death in the family touches many people and sometimes reactions can be raw. When you can’t find the words, let me help. I can help you navigate a path which might be difficult, or I can craft something with you or for you. As someone recently said, “Jen, you held a mirror up for us, and we are so grateful.”
Hopefully your loved one’s life was well-lived.
There’s usually no rush to arrange a funeral and people often feel a little stronger when some time has elapsed – I’ve conducted memorial ceremonies some weeks after cremation and this can allow time for friends and family to arrive from overseas.
I’m happy to chat about honouring someone’s life and planning a funeral celebration even if that person hasn’t died. Talk to me about a “Hoo-roo, I’m Off!” planning pack! It can be empowering and very fulfilling to plan ahead. A few people have even attended their own wakes…!
I’m happy to provide the following rituals as well as being open to your ideas and wishes:
- RSL / CFA
- Scattering Ashes on land or at sea (Coast Guard)